Make Your own Experience
One thing I dislike is when people try to push on me their own experiences. Before I moved here so many of my German friends was warning me and trying to convince me that I would not like Germany giving reasons. I had to pack my own groceries. I have no problem packing my own groceries, I actually like doing it. It save me less time or trying to organize what go where when I am unpacking in the kitchen. Plus I don’t have to worry about my eggs or loaf of bread getting smash. Not all Germans are nice. I have to agree because not everyone in any culture are nice. It is normal to have good and bad anywhere and in any nationality. It is just people being people.
When I first came here a person online told me I was not going to find the type of living space I am looking for. We found our dream temporary home in which we currently live in after almost two months of looking. It is 5 bedrooms spaces flat. No cut off ceiling, not located in a damp basement, 5 minute away from the stadmitte (downtown), and a short walk to the castle. We of course do not use all the rooms for bedrooms. That would be pointless for just me and the hubster. We made them into a walk in closet, fitness room, office, guest room/hobby room, and of course our bed room. This same person try to scare me about going to my first OBGYN appointment. Telling me that I would have to take off my trouser in the doctor office where he/she examine me and run around the room trouser less with people constantly coming and leaving out the room. She was half correct. The doctors that I go to all have changing rooms where I can hang up or fold my trouser. When I am ready than I help myself onto the table. The ones I been too have not gave me a robe or anything in which I have no problem with. I take them as professional people and love all my lovely flab. This young lady also went into detail and describe the room and the table. As I mention the rooms of my many doctors came nothing close to her description and my examination table was the same normal examination table as in America.
Online some people say Germans are rude, they do not like foreigners. As I mention above bs, people are people. Some people mention it is hard to integrate here and compare everything to home. I say it is easy to integrate if you just let go but do not lose who you are and have fun exploring Germany or Europe. There are so many wonderful quality and massive amount of history surrounding us. In which we can touch, sit on, visit, take photo of, heck even sleep in. Yes, it is hard when one is not fluent with the language but if you attempt learning it and speaking it. The people are happy to help you out and appreciate you for trying. Even when they laugh at your pronunciation:))
Another I hear a lot is that it is hard to become friends with German unless you have a child. That is so much bs. Not every German wear a protective shield for you not to pass by it. They stare at you walking down the street because you are new to them. Perhaps they heard you speaking and bought back fond memories of their visit in America. They are easy to reach out to if you decide to talk to them. Some people say Germans do not like small talk. So not true. How can you get to know someone without first having small talk? I say if you want to be friends with a German or any nationality you have to be the one to make the first move. As living here I have learned that some will just stare you down until you make the attempt to talk to them and invite them for coffee. You don’t need a child to be friends with a German or any nationality you just need to be sincere and be yourself. So they can like you for who you are.
Point blank is when you move to a certain city, state, or country do not soak in what people tell you of what a place is all about. Use what they say as some what as a guide but do not make it an official guide. Make your own experience and discover your new home.